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Recently I’ve been binge-watching Queer Eye (I’ve never seen it before! – came across it on Netflix), and yes admittedly weeping occasionally :-).

At the heart of the show, the Fab 5 are helping people reconnect with who they really are, that bright unique light inside, remembering their own story, and then taking that story forward in a new way.

I realize in many ways that is what my goal is when working with clients. With a wedding couple, my favorite part of the process is hearing their story, how they met, what made them fall in love. Then incorporating their love story in an authentic way into their wedding ceremony.

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At Birch Aquarium. Photo by ABM Photography

An opportunity to tell the story of their relationship, and then just imagine it forward into the adventure of their marriage.

When we really connect with who we are, what brings us joy, what brings us purpose – it becomes the essence of any relationship as well.

Even officiating memorial services – maybe especially so – talking with someone about their loved one who has passed is an opportunity to incorporate all the very special qualities of their beloved deceased, the special gifts they brought to the world. Their story of the impact they and their life had on others is the most important aspect of the service.

Rather than just go through the motions of a ritual or tradition, it’s so important to really connect with that part of ourselves, that light, and then have the courage to express it.

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Recently I met with a couple who shared their beautiful story of how they met, and then how he proposed. Immediately after he got down on one knee (and she said yes!), they took off for a camping trip up the coast. The bride-to-be dashed off a few texts to friends and family with the good news.
When they arrived at the campsite they had no reception. Little did they realize what a blessing that became.
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For the next 24 hours they basked in their new status, just the two of them in Nature, sharing dreams. Spending that time with only each other.
The next day as they headed off, reception was restored and their phones were full of texts, calls, posts.

Of course it was wonderful to receive all the well wishes. But they realized that if they’d been able, they would have spent all that time on the phone with family, texting with friends, posting pics.
A little delay made all the difference in savoring and remembering that very special time together, off the grid.

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Congratulations to Alyson & Erik!
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My first wedding couple of 2018 (!) held a beautiful and intimate Winter Wedding, mid-week on the beach. The “Just Us Two” ceremony (plus 2 friends as witnesses) in Pacific Beach was intimate, heartfelt, and incorporated personal selections.
These two tied the knot – literally – with a knot-tying unity ceremony.
And included a favorite quote from Kurt Vonnegut:

And I urge you to please notice
when you are happy,
and exclaim or murmur,
or think at some point,
‘If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.’

They drove over from Tucson for the quintessential toes-in-the-sand wedding ceremony. And though it was a cloudy/foggy day, San Diego did deliver a bit of a sunset for them.

Congratulations you two!

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Do you have all the information you need to acquire your marriage license? A few things to know:
You have a 90-day window to acquire your license. You have to call to make an appointment (no walk-ins). There are several locations throughout San Diego County. It costs $70. You both have to be present.

For more information: https://arcc.sdcounty.ca.gov/Pages/marriage-licenses.aspx

Tip: Make a day of it! Though it is a government appointment with a lot of paperwork, enjoy the moment – it’s a big deal. Celebrate with a lunch or walk along the boardwalk on Pacific Highway and enjoy the ships!

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2017 marks my 10th anniversary as a ceremony officiant!

kent-and-christine-weddingAnd here is evidence of my very first wedding ceremony (yes, I was a blonde back then!) at the Kona Kai on Shelter Island.

Kent and Christine were so gracious. They knew it was my first gig and they were patient and kind and we all got through it together.
The ceremony was chock full, with several selected poems, unity ceremony, rose presentation, a guest reader, and even a dove release!

I was lucky to have many years’ experience as a wedding planner under my belt at that time, so at least I was familiar with the whole process.

Dale Gottschalk (San Diego DJ) handled ceremony system and music. I’m sure he doesn’t remember it, but his calm professionalism really helped me through (bless you Dale!).

It was thanks to a 6-month training program by veteran Minister Gail Smith that I got my start, learning the ins and outs and sacred elements of officiating a ceremony. A path I had never before envisioned for myself, but one that became my true calling.
Since that first wedding, I have since added baby blessings, memorial services, and home blessings to my umbrella of services.

It has been my joy and privilege to serve couples and families through important and sacred moments in their life, and I greatly look forward to 10 more years (at least!).

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