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Every year my mother – who lives in Tucson – comes to San Diego for about 6 weeks to escape the summer heat of the Arizona desert.

She stays in a wonderful VRBO down near Balboa Park, and in my free time she and I play tourist in San Diego.

My service as a ceremony officiant takes me all over San Diego County, to beautiful and unique event venues. This past summer it was my pleasure to officiate the wedding ceremony for Joe and Lori at the Japanese Friendship Garden in Balboa Park.

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under the Pagoda by the Koi pond

Since I always attend wedding rehearsal, I invited my mother to meet me at the Gardens after I had completed the rehearsal with the couple. Mom and I had a wonderful time touring the Gardens, enjoying the peace and quiet, and the stunning landscape design.

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A view from up top, of the extensive gardens and pathways

For me, it’s special to include my mother in my life this way and she has a better appreciation and understanding of my work.
We can easily take our mothers for granted or we might not even realize how much it means to them when we include them in our lives, even in a small way.

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On the bridge with my mother, the rock-lined stream flowing from the top of the Gardens

Traditionally in a wedding ceremony, a father escorts his daughter down the aisle, and mom doesn’t always have a particular role. After nearly 20 years in the world of weddings I have seen, suggested and encouraged many opportunities to include BOTH parents.

Opportunities to honor mom in your wedding ceremony:
~Many more couples are inviting BOTH parents to escort them down the aisle.
~Your mother escorts you down the aisle. Many moms have played the role of both parents in their child’s life, and this is a beautiful way to acknowledge that.
~A Rose of Gratitude: at the beginning of the ceremony, the couple presents a single rose to each mom (stepmothers, too!), in a gesture of gratitude for all the support and love they have received.
~A Reading: invite mom to read a special poem or verse during the ceremony
~Maid/Matron of Honor: there is no reason why your very own mother can’t serve in this very important role as well.
~In Memory: if you mother has passed, there are many ways to honor her in memoriam. Your officiant can acknowledge her during opening remarks. You can leave an empty chair at the front row, perhaps even with a single white rose on it. You can include photos of her at a special “In Memoriam” table at the ceremony.

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A very sweet couple sharing their vows by the sea.

Thank you so much to Brian at ABM Photo for these beautiful shots!
Gorgeous florals by Fox & Flora
Stellar coordination efforts courtesy of Taleah Hartsten
And, shoutout to DJ at WeddingBug and A/V tech from L’Auberge for making me sound good!

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Can you imagine a more beautiful view? Cliffside in Del Mar, at Seagrove Park. simple florals mark the wedding aisle

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This wooden frame arch is beautifully adorned, and just the right look for this late September wedding.

Gayle, I am so thankful we chose you! You were so sweet and did such a great job. . . . I hope you’re doing well! Thank you again from the bottom of my heart.“~Tailor

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Heading up the aisle the start the processional. I love to see the smiles and anticipation of friends and family.

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A beautiful tribute to those they have lost

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This was a fully destination wedding to San Diego, a small intimate group of friends and family.

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Sharing I Dos (as the flowergirl makes a getaway)

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All smiles, about to say, “I do!”

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They have a very curious witness to their first kiss! 🙂

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Congratulations Mr. and Mrs.!

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A view of their L’Auberge Inn wedding reception

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This couple shares everything – including their name!

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Fantastic videography of the very touching wedding of Joe & Paige. I loved working and creating with these two – such a sweet and very-in-love couple 🙂

Thank you to Regan at reganelizabethfilms.com for your artistry.

Ceremony snippets throughout!

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Recently I’ve been binge-watching Queer Eye (I’ve never seen it before! – came across it on Netflix), and yes admittedly weeping occasionally :-).

At the heart of the show, the Fab 5 are helping people reconnect with who they really are, that bright unique light inside, remembering their own story, and then taking that story forward in a new way.

I realize in many ways that is what my goal is when working with clients. With a wedding couple, my favorite part of the process is hearing their story, how they met, what made them fall in love. Then incorporating their love story in an authentic way into their wedding ceremony.

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At Birch Aquarium. Photo by ABM Photography

An opportunity to tell the story of their relationship, and then just imagine it forward into the adventure of their marriage.

When we really connect with who we are, what brings us joy, what brings us purpose – it becomes the essence of any relationship as well.

Even officiating memorial services – maybe especially so – talking with someone about their loved one who has passed is an opportunity to incorporate all the very special qualities of their beloved deceased, the special gifts they brought to the world. Their story of the impact they and their life had on others is the most important aspect of the service.

Rather than just go through the motions of a ritual or tradition, it’s so important to really connect with that part of ourselves, that light, and then have the courage to express it.

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Despite the heat of August, this fun-loving couple were all smiles for their wedding at the New Children’s Museum in downtown San Diego.

Across the street, they said “I Do’s” on the playground, then back to the museum for celebrations.

Much gratitude to:
Kellene of Betty Blue Events for masterful coordination
Laura of Laura Christin Photography for these incredible images – she captured their emotions beautifully.
DJ Earl Henry – always the pro – for seamless ceremony sound and music.

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Escorted by her mother, Catherine is just beaming as she heads up the aisle (and I just love the toddler-swing hanging in the background!)

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Colin can’t hide his love and pride as Catherine comes up to join him.

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Their wedding rings bundled up into a special handkerchief – handmade by Colin’s great-grandmother – it also served as Cat’s “something blue.”

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Cat’s dear aunt passes their wedding rings along – a beautiful ritual of a ring warming- during the ceremony.

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Sharing personal vows is a special and sacred moment. I always tell couples it’s a good idea to write them on a nice card stock – easier to manage especially in breezes. These two wrote their vows into lovely cards, which will make a great keepsake.

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Just after the ceremony is complete as the wedding party begins to celebrate, the Maid of Honor and Best Man perform that very important task of signing their marriage license as witness.

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Beautifully set up for a celebration!

Congratulations Mr. & Mrs!!
I was to honored to officiate their ceremony on their big day.

You far exceeded our expectations for the ceremony. We had a delightful time meeting you and telling you our story–and you managed to incorporate that very well into the ceremony. Your process works! It was such a pleasure working with you.
~Cat & Colin

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On a beautiful June day out in the countryside of San Diego, Bates Nut Farm in Valley Center provided the perfect space for these two to share I Dos.
Simple decor and personal touches made this a special and intimate wedding ceremony.

Much gratitude to:
Brandon of Brandon Colbert Photography for incredible images as well as his easy-going professional style.
Black Tie Productions for seamless ceremony sound and music.
Bates Nut Farm and coordinator Sherrie for making everything run so smoothly!

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The majesty of these gorgeous trees create the perfect space for the ceremony.

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TIME CAPSULE: This beautiful leather case on the wooden table contains very special wine bottles. And during the ceremony Tanya and Iain placed their marriage vows in the case along with the wine. On their anniversary they will open the case, pop the cork, and share their vows again, to celebrate and toast their union once again.

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Her parents are simply beaming as they escort their daughter up the aisle.

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RING WARMING: I love this simple wooden round box to pass their rings for the ring warming. During the ceremony, their wedding rings are passed among the guests, who take just a moment for a silent wish or blessing for the happy couple, their future and marriage together.

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VOWS: Sharing a laugh during their personal vows to each other.

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Congratulations Mr. & Mrs!!

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So honored to officiate their very special ceremony.

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“From the moment my husband and I met Gayle, we knew she was special and the perfect person to officiate our wedding. She has an incredibly warm, kind and calm aura about her that makes you feel like you’ve known her forever. . . . Gayle did an amazing job making our wedding and ceremony memorable, she far exceeded our expectations.”~Tanya & Iain

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Recently I met with a couple who shared their beautiful story of how they met, and then how he proposed. Immediately after he got down on one knee (and she said yes!), they took off for a camping trip up the coast. The bride-to-be dashed off a few texts to friends and family with the good news.
When they arrived at the campsite they had no reception. Little did they realize what a blessing that became.
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For the next 24 hours they basked in their new status, just the two of them in Nature, sharing dreams. Spending that time with only each other.
The next day as they headed off, reception was restored and their phones were full of texts, calls, posts.

Of course it was wonderful to receive all the well wishes. But they realized that if they’d been able, they would have spent all that time on the phone with family, texting with friends, posting pics.
A little delay made all the difference in savoring and remembering that very special time together, off the grid.

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