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I am a person in Service, and it is my joy to officiate ceremonies of life’s important moments. Baby blessings, weddings, and memorial services are sacred experiences. Deeply personal and sacred.

It is important that EVERYONE – regardless of race, ethnicity, gender identity, sexual orientation, or faith – has the opportunity to experience ceremony and celebration without fear or reprisal.

Officiating is meant to create a safe space for you, so that you and your family and friends can be fully present and open to the Love that is ceremony.

My role is to guide and support you in creating your ceremony, and this often requires I learn more.
For example, my nondenominational wedding ceremonies have included beautiful and powerful symbols of the Jewish faith (Chuppah, Breaking the Glass); Black heritage (Jumping the Broom); Persian culture (the Sofreh Aghd); and support of Chinese tradition (offering the ‘Western’ ceremony after the morning Chinese Tea Ceremony), to name a few; or crafting language appropriately to honor same-sex couples.

I have been an activist since I was a teenager, canvassing for presidential campaigns even before I could vote. My activism has been more focused in some years than others.

As a white, hetero, cisgender woman, I recognize my responsibility to do the challenging inner work of rejecting the story I was given – the story of white supremacy and privilege. I reject that story and look to working with social justice leaders and community in crafting a beautiful society where all are truly equal, all feel heard and seen, all feel like their country is indeed a place to call home.

My commitment is to continue to actively do the inner work so that I can truly stand as an ally deeply committed to activism promoting equality for all.
I continue to learn, and I will always listen.

These are just a few of the organizations I support, either through donations, volunteer work, reading, or simply spreading the word:

Black Lives Matter blacklivesmatter.com
Movement for Black Lives m4bl.org
Life After Hate lifeafterhate.org
The Equality Institute theequalityinstitute.com
SURJ showingupforracialjustice.org
ACLU aclu.org

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Gov. Newsom signed Executive Order as of April 30, 2020 to allow for legal wedding ceremony via videoconferencing.

Visit the San Diego County Clerk’s site for more information. Be sure to check it frequently as it changes:

https://arcc.sdcounty.ca.gov/Pages/marriage-licenses.aspx

I will be happy to discuss options for officiating your wedding ceremony in this manner. Even virtually, sharing your vows can still be special and sacred.

Blessings,
Gayle Feallock
Nondenominational Officiant

 

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The San Diego County Clerks office is offering new options to obtain your marriage license.

Visit the site for more information: Marriage License

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Thinking of all the couples who are cancelling or rescheduling their big day. Here is some additional information – a recent email response from the county clerk:

county recorder_marriage-license

 

If you are able to reschedule, please know that most everyone in the wedding industry is rooting for you and will do their utmost to assist you in making sure you have the magical celebration you’ve been imagining.

Blessings,
Gayle

 

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“I’ll be there in Spirit” . . . do you really mean it?

You make plans with girlfriends for a fun night out. Something comes up so you have to cancel, and in your text you also say, “but I’ll be there in Spirit!”

Does that mean, for the duration of the event you’re missing, that you will be in prayer or meditation, thinking about your friends and their fun night out?

Or, do you say it just to soften the blow? I get it, you don’t want to offend or dismay your host, and somehow this phrase indicates you’re REALLY sorry.
But, in my view, it’s a cop-out. What is wrong with simply saying, “I won’t be able to attend. I’m so sorry. Hope you have a great time.”
Period.

Why do I think this is such a big deal?
Because, tossing this phrase around cheapens it for when you really DO mean it.

spiritFor example, I recently gave a reiki healing to a client on the other side of the country. A long-distance reiki session.
This involved instructing the client to lie down at a specific time, eyes closed, focusing on their issue.
This involved setting up my reiki room and getting into a deep meditative state, intending that the reiki energy was becoming activated in my client.
In this case, I really WAS there in spirit. Focusing completely on engaging on a spiritual level at a long distance. It’s quite powerful. I did some work with reiki on her solar plexus. After the session she told me she experienced a lot of sensation around her stomach area. I didn’t tell her that’s what I was working on.

OR, during ceremony, when someone has passed and is there in spirit.
I’ve had this experience particularly at baby blessings: when a grandparent has passed, and we invoke their name during the baby blessing. For example, the parents of the baby have experienced a hummingbird buzzing by at the moment the grandparent is mentioned.

During a memorial service, at a sacred moment, something goes a little screwy with the A/V equipment. The client experiences that as the one who’s passed is sending a little ‘hello’ – especially if that person had generally been a fun trickster in their lifetime, too.

Words are powerful. Remember that the next time you catch yourself saying “I’ll be there in spirit!”
The truth is, you really do have the power within you to be there in spirit, whether you experience that through prayer, meditation, or simply spending time focusing  good wishes on another person or situation – it’s an incredible feeling, and can actually be experienced by the other person or have a positive impact.

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Every year my mother – who lives in Tucson – comes to San Diego for about 6 weeks to escape the summer heat of the Arizona desert.

She stays in a wonderful VRBO down near Balboa Park, and in my free time she and I play tourist in San Diego.

My service as a ceremony officiant takes me all over San Diego County, to beautiful and unique event venues. This past summer it was my pleasure to officiate the wedding ceremony for Joe and Lori at the Japanese Friendship Garden in Balboa Park.

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under the Pagoda by the Koi pond

Since I always attend wedding rehearsal, I invited my mother to meet me at the Gardens after I had completed the rehearsal with the couple. Mom and I had a wonderful time touring the Gardens, enjoying the peace and quiet, and the stunning landscape design.

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A view from up top, of the extensive gardens and pathways

For me, it’s special to include my mother in my life this way and she has a better appreciation and understanding of my work.
We can easily take our mothers for granted or we might not even realize how much it means to them when we include them in our lives, even in a small way.

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On the bridge with my mother, the rock-lined stream flowing from the top of the Gardens

Traditionally in a wedding ceremony, a father escorts his daughter down the aisle, and mom doesn’t always have a particular role. After nearly 20 years in the world of weddings I have seen, suggested and encouraged many opportunities to include BOTH parents.

Opportunities to honor mom in your wedding ceremony:
~Many more couples are inviting BOTH parents to escort them down the aisle.
~Your mother escorts you down the aisle. Many moms have played the role of both parents in their child’s life, and this is a beautiful way to acknowledge that.
~A Rose of Gratitude: at the beginning of the ceremony, the couple presents a single rose to each mom (stepmothers, too!), in a gesture of gratitude for all the support and love they have received.
~A Reading: invite mom to read a special poem or verse during the ceremony
~Maid/Matron of Honor: there is no reason why your very own mother can’t serve in this very important role as well.
~In Memory: if you mother has passed, there are many ways to honor her in memoriam. Your officiant can acknowledge her during opening remarks. You can leave an empty chair at the front row, perhaps even with a single white rose on it. You can include photos of her at a special “In Memoriam” table at the ceremony.

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A very sweet couple sharing their vows by the sea.

Thank you so much to Brian at ABM Photo for these beautiful shots!
Gorgeous florals by Fox & Flora
Stellar coordination efforts courtesy of Taleah Hartsten
And, shoutout to DJ at WeddingBug and A/V tech from L’Auberge for making me sound good!

aisle closeup

Can you imagine a more beautiful view? Cliffside in Del Mar, at Seagrove Park. simple florals mark the wedding aisle

arch florals

This wooden frame arch is beautifully adorned, and just the right look for this late September wedding.

Gayle, I am so thankful we chose you! You were so sweet and did such a great job. . . . I hope you’re doing well! Thank you again from the bottom of my heart.“~Tailor

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Heading up the aisle the start the processional. I love to see the smiles and anticipation of friends and family.

memorial sign

A beautiful tribute to those they have lost

ceremony - side

This was a fully destination wedding to San Diego, a small intimate group of friends and family.

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Sharing I Dos (as the flowergirl makes a getaway)

tailor smile

All smiles, about to say, “I do!”

kiss

They have a very curious witness to their first kiss! 🙂

mr-mrs

Congratulations Mr. and Mrs.!

lauberge sunset

A view of their L’Auberge Inn wedding reception

sunset sillhouette

tailor-taylor sign

This couple shares everything – including their name!

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