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When your loved one dies, while it is a time of grief, it is also a time to connect with others who have loved the deceased, celebrate that person’s life and all of the gifts they contributed during their time on Earth.

If you do not belong to a particular religion or religious institution, there are many ways to create a meaning memorial service or celebration of life, in honor of the deceased.

The service might include:

A FAVORITE PRAYER OR POEM: If the deceased had a favorite book or poem, that can be read, or even song lyrics. Maybe you grew up with religious traditions you no longer practice, however there might be a bible verse or other scripture that is still meaningful to you. This is a great opportunity to incorporate that reading into the ceremony.

memorialcandlesCANDLE LIGHTING: Lighting candles holds a history and tradition of honor, and sacred respect. There are several ways to use a candle-lighting service, both to remember your loved one, and to honor your feelings during this time. This is an opportunity to invite certain family members or close friends forward to participate.

PHOTOS: If space allows at the venue and if time allows to gather them prior to the service, consider a display of many photos taken of your loved one, in all types of activities, on vacations, with friends, with family, etc. This is a lovely way for guests to reminisce as they arrive and are waiting for the service to begin.

STORIES: Allow 30 minutes to an hour, depending on how many people attend, for guests to talk. Welcome them to come forward, in their own time, to share a story, a quality they loved about the deceased, how they were impacted by something that person did for them; it can be anything really.

Sharing memories and hearing perspectives from others can begin the healing process. Sometimes this portion of the service even allows for some joyful memories and a few shared laughs.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERALOCATION: Where the service takes place can be just as important as the memorial itself. If you don’t belong to a religious congregation, you might not have a venue at the ready.

Create a beautiful intimate event in your home backyard, at a favorite spot of the deceased, or even at one of San Diego’s beautiful beaches. How about a favorite park? (If you choose a public outdoor location, be sure to look into any required permits.)

As an officiant, when performing the service, I also include time to guide guests through a brief visualization exercise. It is for guests to have a private inner moment to say thank you, goodbye, and let go.

Talk with your ceremony officiant or minister, and members of your extended family, about what to include and the intent of the service. Together you can craft a meaningful experience for all.

Gayle Feallock, owner of Just Imagine Ministry, is an officiant of nondenominational, sacred ceremonies for all of life’s most important moments, including weddings, baby blessings and memorials. Learn more at www.justimagineministry.com.

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After going for 6 hours, almost nonstop, giving Reiki to more than 12 clients, you’d think I would have been exhausted. In fact, I was invigorated and inspired.

It was such an honor to be a part of Circuit Healing Day on Monday, founded and created by Anna Naturalista – a force of a woman on a quest to heal the world, one person at a time.

Custom-made day

Held at a beautiful estate in Rancho Santa Fe, Circuit Healing Day served as a specialized, custom-made “spa” day for each participant. As they arrived and registered, their needs were assessed – whether physical, mental, emotional or all.

Then they enjoyed different healing modalities, techniques, and tools throughout the day, and the estate.

Not to mention taking in incredible views, enjoying delicious healthy food, and taking a dip in the pool or jacuzzi between sessions.

Reiki is different for everybody

As they arrived in a private back room for a Reiki session with me, each client shared their own amazing story and what brought them to circuit healing day.

And, as Reiki is a universal energy, everyone responded differently to the session.

~One client felt a release in the tension of her neck.

~Another cried over missing a loved one.

~Another saw angels all around her.

Most comments I received included, “that was wonderful” and “I am so relaxed.”

Receiving Reiki might elicit a feeling or experience that can be challenging to articulate. Most importantly, it is an opportunity for the body to relax and receive an energy that is universal and healing.

What does Reiki have to do with it?

So, what is an officiant doing practicing Reiki? What does that have to do with wedding ceremonies and baby blessings?

Well, in a word, everything.

To me healing energy and Reiki – *spiritually guided life force energy- is the “connective tissue” to all that I do. Honoring the sacred in everything, whether is it officiating a wedding ceremony, performing a baby blessing, facilitating a memorial service.

It is showing up with the understanding that there is so much more at work than just me.

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*The word Reiki is composed of two Japanese words:  
~Rei which means “God’s Wisdom” or “the Higher Power”
~Ki which is “life force energy”
So Reiki is actually “spiritually guided life force energy”

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This review that popped up on Wedding Wire Dec. 28 is one of the best holiday gifts I could receive, and a pretty great wrap-up to a great year.

Sometimes I wish I could give my clients reviews and testimonials.

They so inspire, delight, and surprise me.

My purpose is driven by guiding clients to pause, notice, honor and celebrate, important moments in their life.

We don’t pause often enough.

A sacred ceremony or celebration is an opportunity to step out of all the “DO-ingness” of life for a moment, and experience the BEING-ness.

Time can slow down in these moments.

And you might experience a bit of greatness within yourself and your loved ones, that you hadn’t previously known.

In the new year, if you are . . .

planning your wedding

crafting a memorial service to say goodbye to a loved one

welcoming a new little life into yours, with a baby blessing

 

. . . please know that no matter how seemingly traditional your ceremony might be, you have so much creativity, beauty, and inspiration inside of you, and you can’t imagine where that can take you.

Taking the time to honor these times will make you shine, and those around you will be honored to see it, whether they are professionals helping you craft your celebration, or your dearest friends, who get to see you in a whole new light. And they just might want to give you a rave review.

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This past week while volunteering at Deepak Chopra’s Seduction of Spirit conference in La Costa, I had a variety of duties, such as assisting with registration, guiding people to events, and manning the doors of the ballroom space. It was incredible to be among more than 400 people who were seeking a greater connection to the Divine, through Deepak’s programs and teachings.

One of the days, while manning my post at the door, I got into a conversation with an attendee.

She asked, “Do you work at the Chopra center?” I told her I was simply volunteering during the week for the conference.

SHE: “So, what is your job? Did you have to take a whole week off from your job to do this?”

ME: “I have my own business, so I gave myself the week off.”

SHE: “What do you do?”

ME: “I am a nondenominational minister – I perform weddings, baby blessings, memorials, home clearings.”

SHE: “But what is your church? Do you give services?”

ME: “I don’t have a flock, nor do I give sermons.” I shared with her that I officiate and facilitate ceremonies and blessings for sacred moments. And I don’t follow a particular religion. Instead I read books and learn tools and attend programs that will help me connect with God/the Divine. To bring that same energy to every service I officiate or perform. Whatever it takes, my end goal is to experience my own direct connection with God.

I have had this conversation often, in many variations and with all different kinds of people, and I so appreciate the questions. I think a lot of people feel confusion about spirituality and religion and how it fits into our lives.

Come join the conversation:

http://www.meetup.com/spiritedconversation/

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